This is the fifth in a series on the basics of communication we keep missing. If acknowledgment is the door, presence is stepping through, curiosity is wanting to stay, and the pause is where you decide, then body language is what speaks while you're deciding.What Body Language Actually IsYour words say "I'm listening."Your body says... Continue Reading →
The Pause: Silence Is Not the Enemy
This is the fourth in a series on the basics of communication we keep missing. If acknowledgment is the door, presence is stepping through, and curiosity is wanting to stay, the pause is where you decide what comes next.WHAT THE PAUSE ACTUALLY ISPause means to breathe.It means to create space for clarity or curiosity.If you... Continue Reading →
Curiosity: The Question That Changes Everything
This is the third in a series on the basics of communication we keep missing. If acknowledgment is the door, and presence is stepping through, curiosity is what makes you want to stay in the room.What Curiosity Actually IsThey say curiosity killed the cat. But satisfaction brought it back.Curiosity is not nosey. It's not interrogation.... Continue Reading →
Presence: The Gift We Withhold
This is the second in a series on the basics of communication we keep missing. If acknowledgment is the door, presence is what happens once you step through.What Presence Actually IsPresence is the soul inside the spirit of the body saying: I see you. I'm here with you.Phones down. Volume set to low. Focus set... Continue Reading →
Shooting Your Foot: Why Ignoring the Basics of Communication Destroys Your Business
The famous expression in our heading is something most organisations constantly do to themselves. We shoot ourselves in the foot not with malice, but with neglect.The biggest reason most organisations lose clients and business isn't strategy, pricing, or competition. It's that they don't train their employees in some of the fundamentals.The biggest of which in... Continue Reading →
Football IQ 🧠
When you look at midfielders like Johann Cruyff players who dominated on the field, retired, then stepped into coaching and continued to win, even revolutionizing the game one question lingers:Why do forwards always seem to get more recognition?Think of it this way: the engine makes the car move, but it’s not always beautiful to look... Continue Reading →
The Feeding difference
The difference is the same but the moon will glow while the sun blinds. The difference with how lives are lived is the same because all life falls to death. But the difference will fill or drain and that's different. Although the difference is similar, one will feed you and the other, on you. And... Continue Reading →
Beyond Knowledge: Feeling God’s love
1 Corinthians 13. There is a comedy skit done by Eddie Griffin. For his punch line, he says, it doesn't matter who said what, did y'all get the message?That’s what I’d like to ask: did we get the message?The strangest thing about Christianity is how the same book has caused many to mushroom towards division.... Continue Reading →
The price of everything. A birthday mediation
When did life equal money? When did every conversation, idea, hope or dream begin with how much? Love doesn't cost a thing but dates, fabric and transport aren't built on hugs and intimate stares. Where health is yours to manage and sickness is a business for profit. Where is the line drawn that life is... Continue Reading →
Happy birthday, Zambia
It's been 61 years. Zambia is legit a grandparent that is currently refusing to change. An old dog stubbornly ignoring new tricks. And so maybe for this new year, the one gift we can give our nation and ourselves is the simple, brutal opportunity of change.It starts on your street. See that litter? Don't add... Continue Reading →